What Makes Our Intensives Different
We built this model to offer something most couples intensive programs simply don’t: two experienced couples therapists, four different therapy models, and a highly collaborative, hands-on approach.
There’s no substitute for the level of observation and analysis that comes from having two seasoned clinicians in the room. Often, one of us is actively working with the couple while the other is quietly observing, noticing shifts in mood, tension, withdrawal, or something happening between you that might otherwise be missed.
We also pull from four different couples therapy models and use a hands-on approach that goes well beyond sitting on a couch talking. Couples work is not something we do on the side. This is our specialty. Our goal is to bring both compassion and competence to the weekend so you can leave feeling more connected and more confident about your marriage.
We take care of the details so you can focus on each other.
At a Glance….What To Expect When You Work With Us
Not Just Tools
At this point, you probably need more than just communication tools. Our intensives dig deep so changes are meaningful and long lasting
Competency
We are experienced couples therapists, known and respected for our work. We know where to focus, when to pivot, and how to help.
Resource Book
Everything we do over the weekend is documented and compiled into a personalized book you can take home and continue to use.
No Time Wasted
Efficiency is a priority. With two clinicians, we can meet individually with each spouse at the same time - no waiting for your turn.
Extensive Prep Work
A comprehensive pre-weekend assessment phase allows us to hit the ground running. When you arrive, it will feel like we already know you.
“The whole weekend was well structured and productive. The repair process, the tools, and videos were all helpful.”
- Weekend Intensive Partcipant
“I have deep appreciation for the time and attention you both have given to this process. You created a safe space for us.”
- Weekend Intensive Participant
Sample Schedule
DAY ONE - Discovery and Assessment 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Welcome, tour, and orientation to the intensive process
Define goals, expectations, and hopes for the relationship
Individual sessions with each partner to develop personal goals for change
Review assessments and clearly identify target areas for change
One hour lunch break (Couple leaves for lunch while Amy and Mary review progress and finalize the afternoon agenda based on couple’s needs)
Identify each partner’s attachment style and how that shows up in the relationship
Clearly understand perpetual problems and resentments
Guided observation and coaching during a couple interaction
Map out relationship patterns and behaviors that are getting in the way of connection
Reflect on and summarize day one, and depart.
** After couple departs, Mary and Amy will meet to review, collaborate, and refine the treatment plan in preparation for day two.
DAY TWO - Repair and Integration 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Begin the day with a guided exercise designed to promote connection
Individual check-in session
Share our observations from day one and introduce the treatment plan
Receive honest, supportive feedback about patterns that are keeping you stuck
Practice tools and strategies chosen specifically for your relationship.
Identify past wounds that continue to surface and conduct repair dialogues
Practice emotional regulation skills and couple attunement
One hour lunch break (Couple leaves for lunch while Amy and Mary review progress and finalize the afternoon agenda based on couple’s needs)
Explore what a stronger, healthier relationship looks like moving forward
Discuss rituals of connection and creating shared meaning in the relationship
Practice new ways of interacting with each other
Identify a vision for the future and complete a guided exercise to support it
Develop an exit plan to maintain progress made during the intensive